Facing Loss in All Aspects

Death, as we all know, is a deeply sorrow aspect of life. We live and we die; that is the ideal that we all share and must face eventually. However, another thing that we all can have in common is how remembrance and a memorial service can help our families grieve and heal after we pass on to the next life. A memorial service happens after a body is buried or cremated. It serves as a remembrance of the life of a person represented by objects, sculptures, statues or a dedication. Nowadays, more and more people are choosing to cremate a loved one, to not get a cemetery plot, and to remove the memorial completely because of a lower rate. This would be unwise and detrimental for the family of the deceased. A memorial service is vital in remembering the people as well as preserving a family legacy. Having a consistent place to visit your ancestors like an memorial estate is important for the younger generations.

Memorial’s Significance

The sole purpose of a memorial is about remembering and embracing the life of a loved one while helping yourself or someone with grief. A memorial will also stand and become a forever reminder of the deceased’s life. Stories, poems, music, and lighting candles are several ways to fulfill a memorial service. Many individuals may have chosen to cremate a deceased person and to honor him/her by spreading the ashes to the sea or buy preserving them in an urn. However, when a family chooses to cremate and the spread the ashes; the main problem is that the survivors of the deceased could feel abandoned. The ashes would be lost forever, but a plot or a marker can stand forever.

The Window of Grief

During the first year after losing someone close to you, people usually go through a difficult adjustment period. Loss of drive and motivation, depression, and sadness are all traits that we go through. After that first year is when we must start coming into grips with our grief and accept the loss. A memorial service can help survivors pick themselves up and rebuild their life whole again. The main takeaway is a sense of closure. We would arrive to a memorial service in one state and then leave in another. Most importantly, a memorial service is meant for us to reflect on our own lives, to find meaning and to help us open our minds. This ritual that celebrates the end of a life does not have to associate with a particular religion. All of us would equally benefit from them.

Personal Experience

According to Loren Bayer, owner of Bayer Cemetery Brokers and former memorial estate counselor, memorial services and coming in terms with death and the loss of someone go hand in hand. Bayer once stated “There are people who come every day….Memorial parks are therapeutic centers for the survivors.” Memorial services and funerals have the power to give people a clear perspective of life and also help to lower stress and increase health.

Fulfill Your Memorial Needs

A fully realized memorial marker and service starts with a grave or a cremation niche. Bayer Cemetary Brokers has assisted individuals and families for over 30 years with memorial needs. Allowing us to assist will give you professional guidance, lessen the pressure to search for a plot, and also save you between 20-60%. Plan the perfect memorial and have your deceased loved one be remembered eternally and your heart be healed. Be sure to call us at (760) 247-8518 to let us help you.